Problems are temporary, life is precious



We all are going through a tough phase in 2020, one pandemic has caused multiple problems for millions. We are dealing with fear, negativity, job loss, economic slowdown, and a deadly virus.

In this gloomy time, the tendency to give up life is also raising. From lay man to celebrities many have ended their life. There are stories of heaven and hell, the good soul will get entry in heaven and the evil spirit will get punishment in hell after they left the world. Nobody can confirm anything about these stories of heaven, hell, reincarnation, ghosts, etc.

Forget about the stories let’s talk about realities. The main cause of suicide attempts is dissatisfaction with whatever we have. Be it a relationship, be it materialistic wealth, be it fame, Be it a job. When somebody attempts a suicidal task and succeeds, he or she left the world. What happened to those, who attempt for such a foolish act but not succeed?

I will tell you a true story, 10 years back I was walking in the corridor of one the biggest government hospital in India. I was on my way back to my office after finishing an interview with a doctor. I have seen a lady crying badly in a wheelchair. She was looking fit but still crying and looking to a father-daughter duo, where a teenage daughter was helping her injured father to walk. Soon, the duo disappeared. I could not resist myself and talk to the crying lady.

She said she is crying because she can never help her father, who is waiting in the queue to get medicine for her. I offered my help, I said let me help your father, show me who is your father in the queue, I will help him in getting the medicines for you.  As per my offering, I reached the old man in the queue and ask for the prescription, he asked who am I? and why I wanted to help him? I replied to him that your daughter is very upset by looking at you that’s why I thought to help you. Now he replied that Don’t help me for the sake of her. She made me stood here, now why does she want to help me? I left from there and give a helpless look to her. She was still crying. I made my mind to left, I don’t want to get indulge in any personal matter of any unknown person. My journalistic curiosity raised and pushed me back towards her. I went to her once again and asked why your father is so angry with you. Did you meet some accident? Or you are a victim of any crime?

Now there was silence. I wanted to listen to her. I am a journalist and I know many people in this hospital, can I help you in any way? She replied, Now, nobody can help me. I tried to give up my life but I was unsuccessful in that thing too. My attempt to suicide had put me in a wheelchair for the last 10 years. I can’t walk, I can’t do anything by myself. I ruined my life and disturbed the entire family.

She continued with her story, she had completed her B.com, preparing for banking exams, and was happily involved in a relationship with a known boy.  One day while returning from her coaching classes she got the news that the boy, she was involved with was engaged with some other girl. She was upset and want to confirm. After a few days, the news was confirmed, she said I was anxious and one day I leap down from the terrace of my three-storied house. This resulted in a broken backbone. I was not dead but living a pathetic life with a broken backbone since than I am in a wheelchair.

After that incident I spent almost a year in Hospitals, we tried many parallel therapies to get me back to normal life. I was anxious not only because of a broken relationship but because of my physical condition too. My fiancée came to meet me twice but he was also helpless in helping me. Some of my friends were visiting regularly to make me feel better after sometimes their life moved ahead, some of them left the city, some of them left the country, they have got jobs, they got life partners and kids. I was left behind, alone….

I could have become an asset to the family by cracking the competitive exam and getting a reputable job. My impulsive mistake made me a burden.

Now tears were rolling in my eyes too. Her father was back and listening to our conversation. He also had tearing eyes. He apologized for his rude behavior. I gave them my number with the promise to help them with some NGO contacts. The duo went on their way. I also left for my office.

 So, guys before thinking or taking any foolish decision to attempt for a suicide remember that like any other attempt, this attempt can fail too. This failure can leave you in a more pathetic position. 

It’s better to face the challenges rather than giving up.

Don’t try to get a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

#suicideprevention

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  1. Arvind AgrawalSeptember 11, 2020 at 11:28 PM

    Such a painful story! Wonder why the youth has to become so weak?

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